I help partners deepen emotional connection to build richer, more fulfilling relationships.
Couples therapy is a space to try something different: to slow down and explore what’s underneath the unhealthy cycles of your relationship—your conflict, hurt, anger, frustration, and resentment.
With me, you’ll have the opportunity to see and hear your partner in a way that’s hard to do at home. It’s a chance to understand each other on a deeper level, repair the hurt, and build a more fulfilling relationship.
I use an attachment oriented and evidence-based model for relationship therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). Here’s how EFT helps tackle relationship stress and disconnection and create lasting change.
Understanding the cycles that keep you stuck
When couples find themselves feeling disconnected, misunderstood, or constantly caught in arguments, it’s rarely just about the surface-level issues. In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we understand that most of this distress comes from getting stuck in repetitive patterns of interaction—what we call negative cycles.
These patterns often play out in predictable ways. One partner might reach out with frustration, trying to be heard, while the other pulls away to avoid conflict. Or maybe both partners go quiet, unsure how to bridge the growing distance. However the pattern unfolds, it usually leads to both people feeling alone and unsure of how to reconnect.
I help couples see these cycles clearly—what happens on the outside, but also what’s happening underneath. Together, we’ll look beyond the behavior and into the emotions and needs driving it. Most of the time, what fuels the cycle isn’t a lack of love or effort—it’s fear, longing, or the painful belief that your partner isn’t truly there for you.
Once these hidden emotions and unmet attachment needs are brought into the light, the cycle starts to lose its grip.
Shifting from the person to the pattern
Couples often come to therapy thinking the problem is a “communication issue” or that one partner is just too emotional, or too withdrawn, or too demanding. But in EFT, we don’t see either partner as the problem. We see the pattern of interactions between you as the real source of disconnection.
Through therapy, we help you map out your cycle: what tends to trigger it, how each of you typically react, and most importantly, what’s going on beneath those reactions. Maybe anger is masking fear. Maybe silence is really a sign of hopelessness. The more awareness you have of the dance you’re caught in, the more empowered you are to change the steps.
This shift—from blaming each other to recognizing the cycle as the problem—can be transformative. It offers a path out of rigidity and toward compassion, understanding, and renewed connection.
Creating new experiences in real time
EFT is more than just talking about your relationship. It’s about experiencing something different, right there in the therapy room.
As therapists, we guide you in expressing the vulnerable emotions that often stay hidden. Instead of lashing out or shutting down, you learn to share what’s really going on inside: your hurt, your fears, your hopes. And just as importantly, we help your partner hear you and respond in ways that strengthen connection.
These moments in therapy—where you feel seen, understood, and emotionally safe—are powerful. They begin to rewrite the story of your relationship. Over time, they build the foundation for a more secure and resilient bond.
Healing Through Connection
Human beings are wired for connection. We all need to feel that the people closest to us are emotionally available, responsive, and invested in our well-being. When we lose that sense of connection, our internal alarm system—our attachment system—goes off. That’s what drives the urgency, the hurt, and the fear beneath so many arguments.
The beauty of EFT is that it helps couples restore this sense of safety. You learn not just how to avoid the negative cycle, but how to build a positive one—where you can reach for each other, offer support, and know you’ll be met with care.
Whether you’ve drifted apart slowly or are facing a crisis, EFT offers a roadmap to find each other again. Together, we’ll help you move out of patterns of disconnection and into a stronger, more secure relationship where both partners feel valued, loved, and safe.
What you can expect at the beginning of couples therapy
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session together
We’ll all meet for the first session. I’ll get to know your relationship history and what’s bringing you in now.
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individual sessions
I’ll meet for an individual session with each partner get to know how each partner’s history, how you see the relationship, and your specific concerns & desires regarding the relationship.
What you can expect from me
I am an active moderator in couples/relationship therapy.
You will see me direct the communication between you and your partner in order to shift communication patterns between you. I may ask you to pause so I can respond or invite your partner to respond. This is to promote healthier ways of interaction—you’re here for change, after all!
I validate both sides of the feelings.
Each partner’s emotional experience is valid. You will see me validate multiple perspectives, even ones that have led to painful behaviors within the relationship. My validation of feelings does not mean I endorse all actions—baked into the EFT model is an understanding that people often inadvertently hurt others when trying to meet their needs. As we work together, I will identify the co-created cycle as the problem, not any one person.
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come together
We’ll meet together to identify goals and begin tracking the cycle.
Who is a good candidate for EFT?
Relationships are self-reinforcing feedback loops. Therefore, all partners must be willing to:
Look at yourself. Consider the ways you may be contributing to difficulties in your relationship and consider making changes.
Slow down. Listen to the feelings underneath your partner’s literal words.
Be open to vulnerability in session. I’ll help build a space where it’s okay to be uncomfortable—it’s worth it to try.
Receive feedback without dismissing it outright.
Go beyond surface-level fixes to explore the feelings underlying patterns in your relationship.
Who is not a good candidate for EFT?
Partners looking for quick solutions. Quick fixes like communication tips and conversation starters might be temporarily helpful, but long-lasting change requires deep work to attune toward one another and practice changing cycles of interaction.
Partners who are unwilling to practice vulnerability. EFT requires openness to vulnerability. I don’t expect you to come into therapy already feeling confident in being vulnerable or expressing your feelings—I’ll help you develop that skill with me, yourself, and your partner(s).
Issues that threaten vulnerability. I’ll recommend individual therapy in cases where EFCT isn’t appropriate.
Relationships with ongoing violence, or threats or fear of violence from any partner’s perspective.
Relationships with ongoing affairs.
Therapy is most successful when you feel comfortable exploring deep feelings and flexing new skills in session, and that happens when there is a good therapeutic fit. Book a no-pressure, complimentary consultation to give us a chance to get to know one another.